You may ask yourself “why me?” But sometimes, we don’t get to know why. In Islam, we believe that this life is a trial, that everything happens for a reason. We also believe that what we face in life are the consequences of our own choices and decisions. Sometimes we may not know its a mistake, we may hold on to something believing that it’s for our good but Allah(swa) has warned us. “You may dislike something although it is good for you, or like something, although it is bad for you”-(Qur’an 2:216). Whenever I had a feeling something was going to go wrong, I would try to hold on to my prayers because I knew deep inside that it would be the only thing that would help me get through whatever I am about to experience. Reminding myself that I have no control over anything else other than my own actions, that I cannot change the past and neither can I stress about the future, helped me keep ongoing. Believing that Allah is watching over me and that as long as I believe in Allah, then he wouldn’t let me get hurt gave me comfort. If I was hurting, feeling lost then I just told myself that nothing is ever taken away unless it’s replaced with something better either in this world or hereafter.
It takes a lot to be sane, to say try to catch your negative thoughts and remind yourself that this too shall pass. I used my prayers as answers, as a guide to continue life despite whatever obstacles I could face. Now, I’m not saying that what I went through is as bad as someone else may have it but remember, it’s not about comparing who has it worse. “God does not burden any soul with more than it can bear” – Qur’an (2:286). What does that mean? It means we are all different, have different pain tolerance, hardship, and trial tolerance and our trials are unique in a way that it was designed specifically for us.
So when you catch yourself feeling at your lowest, remind yourself that your feelings, emotions, and experience are still valid. You have every right to feel hurt and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for feeling the way you do only because you’re told that “someone else has it worse”. But, remind yourself that you are being tested because you believe.”Do people think they will be left alone after saying ‘we believe’ without being put to the test?”-Qur’an 29:2).
After hardship or a trial, we may feel alone but it definitely has its perk as it allows us to reflect on what has happened in our life. The ayah has warned us that we will be tested the closer we get to Allah. He(swa) has promised that if we are loved then we will surely be tested by what we value the most, what we love and desire the most. Allah knows what’s in our hearts.