I think we can all agree that at some point of our lives, we have judged ourselves. We hate being judged, hate being compared, not only we do it to others, but we do it to our self’s as well!
Part of growing up is discovering who you are, what you want in life and sometimes we miss out on that because we are too busy judging and not letting ourselves grow as a person. We fill our minds with self-doubt and nothing is ever good enough! We compare how we look, what we wear, how we speak, act, we compare our insecurities, success and the list can go on and on. I believe that one cannot be happy and successful with a low self-esteem and a specific beauty standard that is set for them. Of course, you can fake it, but that’s just lying to yourself!
It breaks my heart to see young people who are mad at themselves for being born the way they are and sometimes they are mad at others for not having the same thing like certain facial features, being not tall enough or being “too short”, having a pale skin or dark skin… Don’t be mad at yourselves or others, be mad at the media! I blame it on the media because it has created this image that makes us believe we are not good enough. Remember, it’s their job so they love making money off of us and to them, every single penny counts. Most of the time we just forget about this and don’t even realize that we are giving into something that doesn’t even exist and I’m talking about the ” perfect beauty standards” that has been changed over the years for their own profit.
It took me a while to realize that and accept it and it wasn’t easy. In the west, people want to be tan and have lean, healthy, muscular bodies and that’s the image that media has set for us so if you go to any store, you will see tons of tanning and weight loss products. However, in Asian countries everyone wants to be white and thin and you will see instead of tanning sprays whitening creams and many more bleaching products. It’s not because people decided that being white is the beauty standard, but that’s how the media portrays it. Whether you realize it or not, you have become your own greatest enemy.
The real question here is why can’t we accept ourselves? You can be smart, intelligent, beautiful, successful, but the truth is that someone will always be better. Each and every one of us grew up in a different environment, in a different family that has it’s own values and beliefs. Each and every one of us have our own unique talents, one might be good at art while the other hates it, one might be good in singing, but someone else can be even better. You were born to be the way you are and nobody else can do a better job of being you than you!