I would describe confidence as something very tricky because a little of it can help us but too much of it can even hurt us. However, there are things that one can do to increase his or her level of confidence so here it comes!
1. Fake it till you make it!
That’s right! You might be thinking “why would I fake it? I’m here to find out how to be confident…” Well, what if I told you that how you feel about yourself really impacts how people view you. So while you may not view yourself as someone whos confident, push yourself to value yourself. Try to be sympathetic towards yourself. While at first, you may not believe the words you say to yourself, the more you repeat them, the more likely you’re to believe them. Stop thinking that you are not good enough. How can you expect to be confident when you don’t value yourself? Respect yourself, your opinion, your feelings, emotions, physical, and psychological well being, before you expect that from others.
2. Value yourself
As mentioned earlier, value yourself. Value what you were gifted with. Some of us might not be tall enough, skinny enough, toned enough, tan enough, white enough and that ” not enough” will never be enough! As humans, we share one thing and that is being a human being but we forget that everyone is on their own journey and we are very different. While it’s not about focusing on what makes us different from one another, I would encourage you to try to appreciate the differences because that’s what makes you different from everybody else.
3. Appreciate everything
When you start focusing on little positive things, you start realizing that there’s so much more to your life rather than looks. Look at the things you have, how far you have come, the obstacles you have overcome, the lessons you have learned, your achievements, and the list can go on and on. When you focus on what is already there instead of what’s missing, life becomes so much simpler.
5. Don’t be rude!
You don’t need to raise your voice or be rude in order to get your point across. A confident person says what they mean and means what they say. He or she will say it once, respectfully and clearly. Remember that having an open mind, being assertive while being respectful makes a huge difference! When you feel angry or agitated while talking to someone, stop for a few minutes, take a deep breath, count up to 10 mentally, really think about your response then talk. Make sure you don’t say something that you would feel bad about later on or something you will regret in 10 years!
Confidence should come from your heart. A beautiful and healthy mind is what makes a person confident, not the looks, not the money or how much you have achieved. Happiness will radiate from you when you do things because you want to, not because you have to or want to impress others.